The old saying goes “women can’t have it all” – that there’s no way to have a vibrant social life, successful career and a fulfilled family life. I’m here to tell you that you can.

Yes, you can be a mom, wife, CEO, community leader, athlete, homemaker or any form of awesomeness you want. Women can indeed have it all, just not necessarily at the same time. The key is to look at your life in stages.

With advances in technology, health and societal norms, we now have new life options – from having children later in life (through birth or adoption), to becoming a great athlete in your 40s, to making career switches in our 50s, to finding the love of your life in your 60s or 70s. The runway is long and the possibilities are endless. But we must get out of our own way by ditching the mindset that we need to have it all at the same moment or a certain order. Here’s how: